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Equal pleasures

A list of equal pleasures~

Going to sleep at night

Waking up in the morning

Tea or coffee in the morning

Watering the plants outdoors

A peanut butter cookie and vanilla ice cream at The Cup Cafe in Tucson

The subtlest pressures and resistances of erotic give-and-take

Emotional connection during lovemaking

Walking in a high wind

Smelling star jasmine

Reading

Talking with my girlfriends

I could probably produce a book listing equal pleasures of mine, so I do not intend the items here to be definitive or even to designate categories of pleasures, such as sexual, sensory, or intellectual. At the moment what interests me are differences between equivalents.

While all the pleasures above are equal in the abstract, their value, impact, or intensity changes according to my exact experience of them. Was the cookie warmed up just right and the ice cream softened to a perfect texture? Was the conversation with a friend restrained or halting rather than fluid and forthcoming, which I enjoy more? Was a lover self-involved rather than reciprocating? Reciprocity offers increasing refinements of sensation.

• May 3, 2010
• Filed under: Body and mind, Pleasure
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